If you want to get something, you have to give something first.
there is a saying in the Analects of Confucius: "do not do to others what you do not want."
since ancient times, the most difficult thing between people is empathy.
Don't impose on others what you don't want to suffer.
learn to think of others and empathize with each other. This is not only a necessary practice for everyone, but also the highest goodness in the world.
being considerate of others is a kind of consideration
A really kind person is often the most considerate of others and is considerate of others in subtle ways.
as a saying goes, "I know the world, but I still feel sorry for the grass and trees."
the more educated people have seen the world, the more they know how to think of others, be compassionate, and be kind to the people and things around them.
when sa Bing hosted the program "Challenge the impossible", guests in one episode were ready to shake hands with him after performing the skill of judging the weight of fish by looking at fish scales.
seeing this, sa Bei immediately leaned over and washed his hands, too, before shaking hands affectionately with each other.
this kind of attitude, no matter who you treat, knows how to think of others, compare your heart to others, and be considerate to others. It is the best care and consideration for others.
and behind all consideration is the deepest kindness.
being considerate of others is a kind of respect
Su Dongpo once wrote in his poem: "there are steep peaks on the side of winding mountains, but there are a variety of things in the past from far and near."
when you look at the same thing from a different point of view, you feel different. Told people the importance of "transposition".
Su Dongpo himself suffered because he did not know how to think of others.
once, Su Dongpo visited Wang Anshi's house and saw on the table half of Wang Anshi's poems: "the west wind passed through the garden last night and blew down yellow flowers and gold all over the ground."
Su Dongpo smiled after reading it. The prime minister did not know that chrysanthemums would only wither and not fall.
so he picked up his pen and wrote after Wang Anshi's unfinished poems:
"Autumn flowers fall no more than spring flowers," said the poet carefully. " After finishing writing, Su Dongpo walked away.
when Su Dongpo, a Double-ninth Day after arriving in Huangzhou, was drinking and enjoying flowers with his friends, he was surprised to find that the chrysanthemums in Huangzhou were falling one after another, and the ground was golden, which was totally at odds with his common sense that he thought he was right.
A friend told him, "only chrysanthemums in Huangzhou will fall their petals."
Su Dongpo always felt that Wang Anshi was taking revenge and being too ungenerous. It was only then that he realized that he was too self-righteous and did not know how to think of others, which made him lose respect for his friends, which led to the consequence that he was not respected.
people who know how to think of others will not despise others, because they understand:
others do not necessarily understand what they do not understand; what they cannot do, others may not be unable to do; they are right, others are not necessarily wrong.
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there is a saying in Zhuangzi: "he is also right and wrong, and this is also right and wrong."
this sentence means that the same thing is right here and may be wrong there.
if a person knows how to think of others and look at things from a different point of view, it is not easy to be arrogant and self-centered.
thinking of others is not only a way to leave room for yourself, but also an attitude of respect for others.
to respect others is to respect yourself; only those who respect others will always respect them.
being considerate of others is a kind of warmth
have seen such a short story:
when a man was walking at night, he came across a blind man carrying a lantern.
seeing this, he felt very strange and puzzled, so he went up to the blind man and asked, "what are you doing with a lantern since you can't see? isn't it in vain?"
truly kind-hearted people always know how to think of others and put themselves in other people's shoes. this is a kind of tenderness and compassion for themselves and others.
writer Yu Qiuyu once went to Germany to investigate local conditions and customs.
he found a local house and planned to sign a long lease with the landlord.
so the landlord let Yu Qiuyu have a try. A few days later, Yu Qiuyu lived satisfactorily, so he called the landlord to talk about signing the contract, but accidentally, he broke a glass.
Yu Qiuyu hurriedly apologized to the landlord, but the other party didn't mind at all and said to bring another one later.
after hanging up the phone, Yu Qiuyu threw the broken glass directly into the garbage bag. Then the landlord came over and asked him, "where are the pieces of the glass?"
Yu Qiuyu was shocked and replied, "I put it in a garbage bag and left it outside the door."
after going out to look at the garbage bags, the landlord said to him with an ugly face, "the house will not be rented to you."
Yu Qiuyu was very surprised when he heard that he suddenly stopped renting it to him.
the landlord said, "because there is no one else in your heart."
with that, the landlord emptied out the rubbish again, put the glass fragments into a separate bag, and wrote on it: inside is broken glass, dangerous!
see this Yu Qiuyu at the endYu understood the reason why the landlord was angry, so he felt very ashamed.
A small act of the landlord brings great warmth to others.
as the ancients said, "A gentleman is like jade, and his tentacles are warm."
as Mencius said, "A gentleman is better than being kind to others."
the nobler the soul is, the kinder he is.
they always have others in their hearts, know how to think of others, and make people feel more comfortable and warm.
there is a saying in Zhou Shu: "if you want to take it, you must give it to your aunt."
what you want to get, you have to give first.
for the sake of others, it is the exchange of hearts between people in order to be sincere.
think about everything from the point of view of others, learn to be considerate, respect and warm others, and others will repay you with the same kindness.
as the ancients said, "those who come out of love love to return, and those who are blessed come back."
people who know how to think of others will always be treated well, for the sake of others, and will always be the best kindness in the world.