The world is wide in the chest, and there is a ferry of its own.
ignore it and save time and energy
Zeng Guofan shared a dormitory when he was studying at Yuelu Academy in Changsha.
after seeing this, the roommate was very angry and said, "your desk is in the window, blocking all the light from my desk!"
after hearing this, Zeng Guofan did not argue with him, but asked him kindly, "where should I put my desk?"
the roommate pointed to the bedside and said, "put it there."
Zeng Guofan smiled and let it go according to his opinion.
when Zeng Guofan studied hard in the evening, the roommate said, "if you don't study during the day, do you bother people when it's late at night?"
Zeng Guofan changed his reading to silent reading.
soon, Zeng Guofan won the examination of Juren.
when he heard this, the roommate became even more jealous and said, "the fengshui of this table case should have been mine, but you took it away!"
all the students felt that this man was unreasonable and aggrieved for Zeng Guofan.
Zeng Guofan didn't take it to heart at all, as if he hadn't heard it.
later, he mentioned this in his diary and wrote at the end: "only by maintaining peace of mind and self-cultivation can great things be achieved."
there is a question on Zhihu: how does it feel to compete blindly with others?
there is an answer: "it's like walking into a maze to chase the enemy. You want to defeat the enemy, but you trap yourself."
do you have this experience:
some people, always have nothing to find fault with, make trouble for nothing, but also always deliberately trouble you.
for this, you feel very angry and aggrieved, and you really want to discuss right and wrong and compete with each other.
but in the end, even if you win, you waste a lot of time and energy.
in fact, the smarter the person is, the more indifferent he is.
there is a saying: "the general has a sword and does not kill flies."
instead of arguing with the villain, it is better to ignore it, so that he can gradually leave you in his own boredom.
instead of fighting with villains, it is better to ignore them and devote more effort and energy to important people and things.
ignore it, in order to stop the loss in time
in life, we always meet some troublemakers.
sometimes, just because we don't argue with them doesn't mean we're cowardly and don't want to affect our emotions.
sometimes, just because we don't struggle with them doesn't mean we throw in the towel. We don't want to just add to our troubles.
sometimes, just because we don't argue with them doesn't mean we don't have a temper. We don't want to worry about it.
when Lv Meng, prime minister of the Northern Song Dynasty, first took office, many people did not accept him, and some people said behind his back: "even with this ability, he can be prime minister?"
once Lv Meng happened to hear it, but Lv Meng pretended not to hear it and went straight past.
the officials traveling with him complained for him and were ready to give a breath to Lu Meng, but they were stopped by Lv Meng.
"Don't worry about it. If I knew his name this time, I would think about him all the time. It's not necessary."
there are many moments when we don't seem to embarrass others, but we don't embarrass ourselves.
seems to let others go, but in fact it is also letting go of oneself.
A primary school apprentice went out to pick up the goods and was bitten by a dog on the way back.
after taking care of the wound, he found a long bamboo pole and was ready to hit the dog.
when the master saw this, he came and asked, "does your wound still hurt?"
the primary school apprentice said that the pain was gone.
"Why hit the dog when the pain is gone?"
"because it bit me, I will give it some color to see see!"
the master said, "do you know why lions never fight with dogs?"
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the primary school apprentice froze and looked at the master blankly.
the master smiled and said, "because not everyone deserves to be a lion's opponent, it is not honorable to beat a dog, but it is unlucky to be bitten by a dog." The primary school apprentice had an epiphany after listening to it.
there is a saying in Caigen Tan: "the heart of a gentleman begins to appear when things come, and when things go, the heart is empty."
in fact, we don't have to worry about it when we are faced with malicious ridicule, criticism, or even being entangled by bad things.
once you fight, you will only kill a thousand enemies and lose eight hundred. Only when you know how to stop your losses in time can you save yourself and try not to consume yourself.
Don't care about it, it's for long-term consideration
there is an old saying: "if you can't bear it, you will be out of order."
A truly wise person knows how to think long-term.
for the sake of temporary pleasure and anger, we must not lose the big because of the small, and the loss outweighs the gain.
in 201 BC, Liu Bang, the Gaozu of the Han Dynasty, defeated Xiang Yu and reunified the world.
one day, Han Gaozu saw those unrewarded generals sitting in groups on the sand, looking secretive and whispering.
he couldn't help getting suspicious and asked his counselor Zhang Liang what was going on.
Zhang Liang said, "your Majesty doesn't even know this!" They are talking about rebellion. "
Liu Bang was shocked: "the world has just settled down, why do they still conspire against it?"
Zhang Liang said:
"your Majesty is originally an ordinary people, and it is through these buddies that he has won the world. Now, you are the son of Heaven.The seals are all cronies and old friends, and those who are criticized are all life-long grudges.
they are worried that because you have no land to divide, you will have to get together to discuss countermeasures by means of investigating their previous faults. The only way out, of course, is rebellion. "
Liu Bang broke out in a cold sweat and hurriedly asked, "what should I do?"
Zhang Liang replied, "who do you hate most, your Majesty?"
Liu Bang returned, "Yongya teeth, of course." He betrayed me at first, and he put me in an awkward position many times. I wanted to kill him for a long time! "
at this time, Liu Bang immediately understood Zhang Liang's intention, so he immediately sealed Yong Tooth as Hou.
those generals who were delusional without being rewarded in time thought, after hearing the news, "Yongya can be sealed, and we will not be mistreated."
sometimes, your momentary calculation may lead to disaster.
sometimes, with a moment of relief, you can stay away from disaster.
as the ancients said, "if you can tolerate a villain, you can become a gentleman."
in fact, the more a person can tolerate the mistakes made by others, the more he can gather people's hearts, the more he can give others a way out, and the more he will leave a way back for himself.
sometimes in order to make great things happen, we have to let go of our prejudices and grudges.
sometimes in order to achieve the overall situation, we have to choose to make the necessary retrogression and compromise.
Don't care, it's to make peace with yourself
there is a saying in Cai Gentan: "the world is not dusty, and the sea is not bitter."
in fact, sometimes, the larger the pattern of a person, the less you care about it, the more comfortable and calm you will live.
Su Dongpo and Zhang Dun, about the same age, were good friends when they were young.
in the first year of Shaosheng, Song Zhe-zong used Zhang Dun as prime minister. In view of the fact that he had been attacked, Zhang Dun retaliated wantonly against his opponents.
because Su Dongpo had clearly opposed it, Zhang Dun went so far as to demote him to Huizhou in spite of his former friendship.
but after Su Dongpo was demoted, he did not bear it in mind. Even in the difficult environment, he was still leisurely and in high spirits.
even in Huizhou, he once wrote a poem: "in order to report that the poet had enough sleep in spring, the Taoist gently beat the five-shift clock."
Zhang Dun saw that Dongpo was relegated so well that he relegated the 61-year-old Dongpo to Hainan Island and let Qiongzhou drive him.
the world is unpredictable. Later, Song Zhe Zong died young, and Zhang Dun was demoted to Lingnan Leizhou and fell to the bottom of his life.
Zhang Yuan, son of Zhang Dun, was a student of Su Dongpo when he was the examiner of the Ministry of Etiquette in Dongpo.
when Zhang Yuan went to visit his belittled father in Leizhou Peninsula, he wanted to make a detour to see Su Dongpo, and he was worried that the teacher would bear his father's grudge. when he was nervous, he wrote a long letter to Dongpo to express his apology.
Dongpo replied: I have known the Prime Minister for 40 years. I still remember his kindness to me. Let bygones be bygones.
in fact, when we are alive, we will inevitably encounter people and things that upset you.
but just because you don't care, it doesn't mean that nothing has happened.
doesn't even mean that you really let go and forgive the other person's injury and blow to you.
but you know that only by letting go of past festivals and grievances can you gain physical and mental freedom and relaxation.
instead of having to plant hatred in your heart all the time, let it take root and sprout, tortured and tortured day and night.
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