Live healthily and grow old peacefully.
see a story on the Internet:
"A 72-year-old man cries that retiring to his daughter's home is the most wrong decision in his life."
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Lao Gu, 72, retired from an institution at the age of 60 and received a pension of 6000 yuan a month.
when he was 65, his daughter gave birth to a second child and couldn't take care of her, so she asked him to come and help with the baby.
speaking, Lao Gu was a little disabled and married relatively late. He didn't get married until he was in his 30s.
the wife left the family when the daughter was six years old.
he is both a father and a mother, working hard to bring up his daughter.
my daughter is also very proud, studying all the way to college, staying in the provincial capital after graduation, getting married and having children.
considering that he was a little lonely at home, and that he had only one daughter, he agreed without thinking when his daughter asked him to come over and help.
in my daughter's house, although it is very hard to cook with my children, I can see my daughter and granddaughter every day, and I think it's all worth it.
because it costs money to buy food, cook and take care of children, his son-in-law will give him 3000 yuan a month for meals.
at first, it was on time, but then something went wrong, either forgetting or giving less.
Lao Gu dared not ask his son-in-law for more, so he used his pension to subsidize his family.
after that, he was paying for his granddaughter's tuition, training courses, and so on.
this is not over. When his son-in-law sees that someone else has changed a new car, he also wants to change it, and let him pay for it if there is not enough money.
Lao Gu really couldn't stand the repeated "gnawing on the old" of his daughter and son-in-law, so he went back to his hometown in a fit of anger.
although this story is an individual case, I believe that most of the children are filial to the elderly.
but providing for the aged is a topic that everyone will face, which is related to the decency and happiness of our old age.
so, I still want to talk about some thoughts caused by this story, hoping to give you a heads-up.
in front of money, family affection may also deteriorate
writer Sanmao once said:
"comedies in the world can be produced without money, and most of the tragedies in the world have something to do with money.
money is not only the mirror of human nature, but also the touchstone of emotion.
sometimes, in the face of money, family affection will become realistic and vulnerable.
"I am really miserable now. My life savings have been wasted. How can I provide for the aged?"
the official lady said to the reporter.
the 69-year-old Guan lady is still unmarried. She has eight children in her family, and she ranks seventh.
when she was young, she studied abroad for her doctorate.
because she is not good at financial management, and the third sister happens to be a math teacher, all the brothers and sisters in the family trust the third sister and hand over their mother's alimony to the third sister.
during the period from her mother's illness to her death, Ms. Guan sent home about 200000 yuan.
since 2000, out of trust in the third sister, she also gave her personal savings to the third sister for safekeeping as a pension fund in the future.
in 2015, the third sister was diagnosed with advanced colorectal cancer and died soon after.
when the official lady was alone, she wanted to buy a medical insurance for herself, so she asked her third brother-in-law for an old-age deposit, but she was refused.
later, after returning to China, she found that the third sister's family had misappropriated their savings many times.
her savings, excluding all her expenses, should have left millions of dollars, but now all that money is gone.
in the interview, the official lady cried more than once:
"this is really something I didn't expect. Decades of sisterhood is gone."
before, I always felt that family affection was unbreakable and invincible.
but later, after reading too many stories about relatives turning against each other, I realized:
Human nature is complicated, and affection may deteriorate in front of money.
an iron rule of life, money must be held in your own hands.
and the savings in our hands is not only our largest sense of security, but also the strength of our old age.
myself, is my eternal backing
swipe to a poignant video:
an 88-year-old man suddenly felt dizzy and fell to the ground at night.
because there was no family around, the old man held back the pain and thought he might just get some sleep.
but when he woke up the next day, he found his waist bleeding. It was only then that he realized the seriousness of the problem and called an ambulance to the hospital.
the first thing the doctor said when he saw the old man was, where is your family?
the old man said that the children are abroad.
after hearing about the old man's illness, the doctor first felt that there was something wrong with his brain and asked him to go to the internal medicine department to take an X-ray to see what was going on.
the old man said, "make do with it." he just wants to cure his waist injury.
the doctor no longer forced him to have a waist examination first.
at this time, a young man came over and said to the old man that he had just finished the examination.Charlie, there's nothing to do. You can go with him.
the old man repeatedly waved his hand and said, "it's all right. I can do it on my own."
but he needed the company and support of the people around him so much that, at the insistence of the other side, he grabbed the boy's hand as a support and walked trembling.
the boy accompanied the old man all the way to do an examination and pay the fee.
sitting in the hospital seat, the old man finally spoke from the bottom of his heart:
"I have three daughters. What's the use? they're all gone. They've all gone abroad."
the old man doesn't want to cause trouble to his daughter and lives alone in Beijing.
there is a line in the TV series "the World":
there are two kinds of filial piety: nourishing the mouth and body and nourishing the mind.
waiting on parents and taking care of food, clothing, housing and transportation is a nourishing body.
to make parents proud of their achievements is to nurture their minds.
as parents, we all want our children to be successful and become excellent.
therefore, they tried their best to provide them with studies and to see a wider and wider world.
but the child's world is bigger, and going home has become an extravagant hope.
some graduate, stay in big cities, work, get married and have children, while others study abroad and settle down and rarely come back.
the only ones who can stay with you forever are your partner and yourself.
it's just that there are too many last resort between work and life, parents and children.
I want to fulfill my filial piety, but I can't lose my job. I want to take care of the elderly, but the small family can't ignore it.
as for the elderly, they do not want to make it too difficult for their children, and if they can handle it by themselves, they will try not to disturb their children.
as a result, he made himself the patron of his life forever.
you will find:
in old age, perhaps what we can really rely on is not our children, not our partners, but ourselves.
A healthy body is the greatest wealth
some people say that old age is not terrible, but old age without health is terrible.
Health is an important indicator of our old age.
and good health is our greatest wealth.
there is a short film called the Last Ten years of Life. After watching it, you will understand:
how important it is for you to have a healthy body in your later years.
some people can go to the park for a walk in sneakers every morning.
while some people can only sit on the hospital bed with an infusion tube in their hands;
some people can ride bicycles to see the scenery everywhere;
while some people can only walk in wheelchairs and be pushed;
some people can have dinner with their families and enjoy their families;
and some people can only rely on others to feed, and even drink a sip of water.
Life, in the final analysis, is all about health. If you lose your health, you lose everything.
so invest in your health from now on.
go to bed early and get up early every day, keep exercising, eat reasonably, and keep a good mood.
the most important thing is to take care of yourself, your body, and your emotions.
because health means not only physical health, but also emotional health.
cultivate a long-term hobby, make like-minded friends, grow flowers, grow grass, and travel.
if we say that anyone's old age is a bloody one.
well, I hope that before that day comes, we can all prepare in advance and prepare in advance.
, may we all have a decent old age, live healthily and grow old safely.